What is "True Love"?

  How will you recognize it when it comes to you?

   Is true love what you see at a wedding, where

two people come together to declare their feelings

for each other before friends and family? Does a

wedding necessarily mean "true love"?

   What's the difference between what we might

think is "true love" and - fantasy?

   If you look at statistics, so many marriages

fall apart and dissolve, it makes you wonder.  It

makes you ask: Was true love ever there from the

beginning? Or did it die? And...if it wasn't there

- What makes us think it was? And if it WAS

there...How did it die?

   If you're like most women, you tend to get

caught up in your imagination.

   Have you ever experienced wanting love SO badly

that when a man comes along who kind of fits the

bill, you jumped all over him, wedding bells

ringing loudly in your ears?

   And then, what felt like true love fell apart -

like the "bubble burst"? "Reality" set in, and all

you felt was pain? And sometimes humiliation

and a whole round of blaming youself?

   Is this, then, IMAGINARY "love"?

   We as individuals can also tend to get caught

up in "stuff" - our work, our children and

hobbies, and our partners suffer as a result.

   When this happens to you, and your man suddenly

(or maybe you just notice it's been like this for

years...) feels like a roommate, a friend, some

distant person you once knew, things can just

plunge downhill.

   The horrible thing that can happen with this is

"cheating," where you or your man seek "comfort"

and sex elsewhere.  And this can then damage your

relationship so badly that saving it becomes a

monumental challenge.

   Or - maybe the excitement and connection just

withered and died from neglect.

   If you still have feelings for your man, you

might just become more and more sad, feel more

and more hopeless, and try everything you can to

"fix" things in ways that don't work - which makes

you feel even worse.

   How can you prevent this from happening to you?

If you start out with what feels like "true love"

- how can you keep it going?

   And if it feels like love now, but then it

fades...what can you do to bring the love back -

even if you've decided now that there never WAS

such a thing as "true love" - only the love you

have, and want back?

   When love has come to you, people say there is

a "knowing," a profound feeling of having "come

home."

   And yet, as it is for so many women - that

could just be your old subconscious patterns

driving you to the actually "wrong" man yet again.

It could be your hormones clouding your judgment

and missing "red flags."

   It could be a superficial chemistry instead of

a deeply rooted emotional, mental and spiritual

connection.

   Whatever you're starting with, it needs time to

grow. You and he need time to grow together - to

be sure that you didn't "create" the relationship

out of need and desperation, or out of your hopes

and wishes and imagination.

   You want to be sure that you haven't created an

illusion that will backfire on you.

   And the challenging thing is this: No matter

WHAT is actually going to happen to your

relationship - no matter WHAT you discover about

you or him that can either bring you closer

together or send you further apart - you still

have to TEND to the relationship as it is.

   Regardless of whether or not he's "the One,"

you must PRACTICE love. You must, as so many

experts say, tend to yourself, feed yourself,

water yourself, nourish yourself - and let all

that love you create in yourself radiate out to

him - so that he feels tended, fed, watered,

nourished and loved just by being WITH you.

   Relationships aren't supposed to be HARD. It's

not the RELATIONSHIP that requires the hard work.

THAT'S the part that's EASY!

   When you love yourself - you naturally love

your man.  But that's the challenging part -

working with  yourself, overcoming your fears of

intimacy and really getting close and emotionally

raw with a man.

   Overcoming your fears of rejection and

abandonment, the most common ones almost all

women have deep inside.

   These fears can seriously interfere with the

love you feel, the love you express, and the love

between you and a man.

   You may unconsciously push him away to avoid

the pain that you're afraid is "inevitable," only

to be faced with the pain you were trying to

avoid.

   Relationships do need attention though. As you

quietly work on yourself, you also need to BE

there for your man and for your relationship:

   True love then is what?

   It could mean different things to different

people.

   Most people agree that romantic love is an

ever-deepening emotional, physical, mental and

spiritual connection..

   Yes, it starts with "chemistry" and a match-up

that no-one can predict or define - that only YOU

can feel.

   But then the connection - the bond - has to be

forged and strengthened moment by moment, day by

day - through respect, touch, feeling, words, and

our willingness to love.

   The kind of intimate love - that means going

deep in an emotional and physical and spiritual

way with a man you want to build a relationship

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   Here's to love for you!

   Sincerely, The Editors at

http://www.LoveRomanceRelationship.com